 What's interesting is that both men and women are struggling with this issue in remarkably similar percentages, but the big difference is that women tend to talk about this when men keep it silent. |
| It's just that, when the orchestra look at me, I want them to see a completely involved person who reflects what we rehearsed, and whose function is to make it possible for them to do it. |
| Everybody blames the culture without taking responsibility. |
| And so, little by little, I gradually divested myself of pretty nearly all of the guest conducting I used to do, because I was at the same time working in the places like the Met, where I could work in this sort of depth. |
| My hunch is that probably men are doing more both outside the home and inside the home. |
| We do not seem to be finding tomorrow's Toscas. |
| So, the total number of hours spent on the stuff you have to do to take care of a family, working and caring for stuff at home, the total number of hours is actually about the same for mothers and fathers. |
| At my age, you are naturally inclined towards teaching. |
| Second, if you're the boss, just because they don't ask doesn't mean your employees don't have needs. |
| When they are performing in front of the public, they ought to have a sensation that's relatively easy, if the technical and the interpretive work was done before. |
| It has to be able to play at the maximum expression and communication in every style, and the only way you can do that is - like Verdi said - working with a file, every day, little by little, until the orchestra's collective qualities emerge. |
| More and more couples are having this negotiation or discussion, but I'm still amazed at the number who aren't and where the cultural norm sort of kicks in and they just assume that mom's got to be the one who stays home, not dad. |
| They've really got to recognize that all of us bring some of our family issues to work and our work home. |
| I grew up in an era where an orchestra was like a treasure chest. |
| I thought I'd write one book and the world would change overnight. |
| Employee fathers need to step up to the plate and put their family needs on the table. |
| Great cataclysmic things can go by and neither the orchestra nor the conductor are under the delusion that whether they make this or that gesture is going to be the deciding factor in how it comes out. |
| As major orchestras around the world are gripped in various kinds of crises and upheaval, we need to be sure that we are bringing up this new generation. |
